Your team of doctors, nurses and social workers are valuable sources of support as you cope with a cancer diagnosis.

When you first heard the word “cancer,” you may have felt shocked, scared or numb. Reactions to a diagnosis are unique; there is no wrong or right way to respond to this news. Many newly diagnosed people face similar challenges: you may want to obtain information about the diagnosis and treatment options, ask questions to understand how the treatment plan will affect your life and find out what resources may be helpful throughout the process.

The relationship you have with your health care team can make a big difference in how you cope with these challenges. Research shows that people who have good communication with their health care team are more satisfied with their medical care than those who do not. They also tend to fare better emotionally and better manage symptoms such as treatment side effects and pain.

This booklet discusses ways to develop good communication with your health care team so you have access to the best possible care. It also explores ways you can take an active role in your care as a key member of that team. After all, you are the person who best knows how your treatment is affecting your quality of life and what issues are most important to you.


Sarah Paul, LMSW
Oncology Social Worker, CancerCare

Your doctors’ appointments will provide the best opportunity to speak with members of your health team.

It is normal to feel nervous when going in for an appointment; you might worry that you will forget to ask an important question or that your doctor will be too busy to listen to your concerns. Such fears are normal, and good preparation can improve how comfortable you are during your appointments. It can also make you more satisfied with your appointments overall. Here are some tips for communicating with your health care team during appointments:

Write down your questions. Bring a written list of any questions you may have. Number your concerns in order of importance, and ask the most important questions first. Let your doctor know you have a list so he or she can set aside some time during the appointment to go over it with you.

Take notes. Write down your doctors’ answers to your questions. Take down any other important information you want to remember; for example, the names of the members of your health care team, places you were referred to, dates and times of future appointments, and when and how to take any medicines you were prescribed.

Keep everything in one place. It may be helpful to have a binder where you can keep all the notes and papers you are receiving. This way, nothing gets lost and you always know where to look for the information.

Bring someone with you. Let the person know ahead of time how he or she can be most helpful to you during your appointment. In addition to giving you moral support, he or she can:

■ Provide another set of ears to catch key points you may have missed.
■ Take notes for you as you talk with your doctor.
■ Remember important information about your cancer or other symptoms that you may have forgotten.
■ Advocate on your behalf, especially if something is unclear to you

Make sure you understand. If you don’t know what something means, ask. Make your questions specific and brief. Other tips include:

■ Use “I” statements whenever possible—saying “I don’t understand” is more effective than “You’re being unclear.”
■ Try repeating the information back to your doctor—"So you mean I should…?”
■ If you understand better with visual aids, ask to see the X-rays or slides, or ask your doctor to draw a diagram.

Ask for a contact. Important questions may come up between appointments. Find out whether there is someone you can talk to if you have an important issue or emergency. If your doctor is unavailable, is there someone else such as a nurse or social worker you can call? Is there another means of communication you can use? Sometimes, doctors may provide an e-mail contact for questions that arise in between appointments.

One of the best ways to begin making decisions about your health is to educate yourself.

Members of your health care team are very knowledgeable about the different aspects of cancer and will likely be your main source of information about your diagnosis and treatment. Here are some tips for communicating with your health care team about your treatment options:

Do your research. Once you know the type and stage of cancer, try to find out what the standard of care is for someone with your diagnosis. Ask your doctor or nurse to suggest reliable organizations, publications or websites that focus on the diagnosis or the recommended treatment. If you are unable to use the Internet yourself or feel overwhelmed with the amount of information you are finding, ask a family member, friend, patient navigator or local librarian to help you. Use the internet with caution; there is a multitude of information online about various types of cancer and cancer treatment. It is important to educate yourself with credible sources and information that is specific to your diagnosis.

Work with a specialist. Doctors who specialize in treating cancer are called oncologists. For the best medical care, it’s important to work with an oncologist who specializes in treating your type of cancer. This is especially important if you have been diagnosed with a rare cancer. To find a specialist, you can:

■ Ask your primary care physician for a referral.
■ Get recommendations from friends, family members or other patients.
■ Call your health insurance company’s customer service line and ask a representative for a list of local specialists in your network.
■ Search online—many professional and cancer organizations provide searchable listings of cancer specialists. For example, the American Society of Clinical Oncology has a database of oncologists. Go to and type “oncologist” in the search box.

Another option is to choose a cancer center known for providing high-quality patient care and then select a specialist at that hospital. Many patients choose this option even if they need to travel long distances for appointments. For a list of some recommended centers, see the National Cancer Institute’s list at or call 1-800-4-CANCER.

It’s important that you feel comfortable with and trust your doctor. If your preferred oncologist does not specialize in treating your diagnosis, he or she can still consult with a specialist about your treatment options.

Agree on the treatment goals. When your doctor recommends a treatment or procedure, make sure you understand the reason(s) why. For example, if you are getting chemotherapy or another cancer drug, is the goal to cure the cancer, control the cancer (shrink the tumor or keep it from growing) or relieve symptoms caused by the cancer? Let your doctor know if you have certain wishes or preferences with regard to treatment so these preferences can be taken into account. Your lifestyle and daily activities may also influence treatment recommendations.

Get a second opinion. Before you begin treatment, you may want to make an appointment with another oncologist to review treatment recommendations. No member of your health care team will mind if you seek a second opinion. In fact, many specialists encourage it and may even provide a referral.

If you are nervous about letting your doctor know you want a second opinion, tell him or her that you are very satisfied with the care you are receiving but just want to make sure you are aware of all your options. It is important that you feel comfortable with any decisions made in regard to treatment options and getting a second opinion may help you make decisions about your medical care.

Find out how the treatment plan will affect your daily life. Cancer treatments are often given at a doctor’s office or hospital. However, many of today’s treatments can also be taken at home. Find out where you will be treated, how often you will receive treatment and for how long. Will you need someone to accompany you to appointments or to help care for you at home? Will you be able to continue your usual activities, such as working or going to school? Knowing such information ahead of time will allow you to prepare for changes to your routine.

Ask about possible side effects. Find out what side effects you can expect from your treatment and how your health care team plans to manage them if they occur. See if there is anything you or your health care team can do to prevent or reduce the chances that you will develop certain side effects. There are effective ways to prevent side effects such as nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, constipation and pain. It is important to advocate for yourself if side effects do arise during treatment. Do not be afraid to ask your doctor about the best ways to manage them.

Discuss the cost of your care. Research shows that many patients do not feel comfortable asking their doctors how much treatment is going to cost and many doctors do not normally bring it up either. If possible, it is important to find out the cost of your medications before starting treatment. Your doctor may not know the answer, but he or she should be able to refer you to a social worker, pharmacist or hospital financial specialist who can help. If you can’t afford the treatment you need, financial assistance may be available to you. Some financial help resources are listed on page X of this booklet.

Get the facts about reconstructive and plastic surgery. Some surgeries, such as those for head and neck cancer, breast cancer or skin cancer, may affect your appearance. You’re your doctor about reconstructive/plastic surgery. Reconstructive/plastic surgery can often be done at the same time as your oncology surgery, so ask about this option as early as possible. A Board-certified plastic surgeon can give you information about your options. To find a certified plastic surgeon, visit the website of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons at and click on “Find a surgeon.”

Learn about fertility-preservation options. If you are unsure if you plan to have children in the future, find out whether the treatment your doctor is recommending could affect your ability to conceive. It is important to speak with your doctor about fertility concerns before you begin treatment. He or she may be able to select a treatment or technique that preserves your fertility or they may be able to refer you for sperm/egg banking prior to treatment. Doctors do not always discuss fertility preservation, especially if they want to begin treatment right away. If this is a priority for you, make sure to discuss your concerns with your medical team from the beginning.

The more you feel that you can openly discuss any matters of concern to you, the better you are likely to feel about your care over the long term.

Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask questions—always seek the care you need and deserve. Here are some additional topics to discuss with your health care team:

Side effects. Chemotherapy, surgery, radiation, targeted treatments, hormonal therapy and other cancer treatments may all result in different side effects. Most side effects can be prevented or managed with medications and other techniques. Some common and often manageable side effects include:

■ Fatigue (feeling very tired)
■ Nausea and vomiting
■ Hair loss
■ Diarrhea or constipation
■ Mouth sores
■ Pain
■ Rash and other skin changes
■ Neutropenia (low white blood cell count that puts you at risk of infection)
■ Lymphedema (swelling, usually of an arm or leg)
■ Neuropathy (nerve damage often resulting in periodic numbness in the hands and feet)

Talk with your doctor about any side effects or symptoms that come up. Some patients worry that if they bring up a side effect, their doctor will be distracted from treating the cancer; that is not true. Side effect management is an important part of comprehensive cancer care—managing symptoms will make it easier for you to stick with your treatment plan.

Your feelings and emotions. Often, people need help coping with challenging emotions raised by cancer, such as, sadness, anger, or fear. While family members and friends are likely to be your main source of support, you may want to seek additional help. If so, your doctor or nurse can refer you to an oncology social worker, counselor or other professional who specializes in helping people cope with the emotional challenges of cancer.

Support groups connect you with others in a similar situation to share experiences and feelings and provide support. Ask your health care team if there are local support groups that would give you an opportunity to talk face-to-face with other patients in a similar situation. CancerCare offers free support services such as telephone and online support groups. You may also want to explore peer-to-peer networks, which match you individually with someone facing the same (or similar) diagnosis.

Practical matters. Experts agree that the highest-quality care for people with cancer is care that addresses not just their medical needs, but their “psychosocial” needs as well. Psychosocial support refers to services that address emotional concerns, as described above, and with practical issues that can interfere with completing treatment. It also includes providing support with day-to-day concerns so you can have the best quality of life during treatment. Some of the many practical issues your health care team may be able to help you with include:

■ Getting transportation to and from treatment
■ Talking to your children about your diagnosis
■ Deciding whether, when and how to talk with your employer about your diagnosis
■ Adjusting a treatment schedule to attend a special event
■ Finding financial help for medications or household bills
■ Locating home care or other services

The members of your health care team can assist you directly with many practical matters and/or refer you to other support services as necessary.

Resources for caregivers and family members. A cancer diagnosis often causes a ripple effect, often impacting loved ones and family members. To help ensure that the needs of your loved ones are met, ask your doctor about resources available to them. For example, CancerCare provides specialized support services for children and teens to help them understand and cope with a loved one’s cancer diagnosis. For example; teens that have a loved one with cancer can join an online support group led by an oncology social worker at CancerCare. CancerCare also provides free services including individual counseling and support groups specifically for caregivers.

Your survivorship care plan As you get close to completing treatment, it is important that you and your medical team discuss what your follow-up care will be like. In the months and years ahead, your doctors will continue to monitor you for any long-term side effects of your treatment. They will also check for symptoms of recurrence (a return of your cancer), of your cancer spreading, or of new cancers developing.

To manage your follow-up care, ask your doctor to put together a written survivorship care plan. This document should include a summary of your diagnosis and all the treatments you received, as well as a follow-up plan of the steps you need to take to achieve the best health and well-being possible. For details about specific items to include in your plan, read CancerCare’s e-booklet, “After Treatment Ends: Tools for the Adult Cancer Survivor.”

Frequently Asked Questions

Q. Where can I find a simple explanation of some of the complicated medical terms my doctor uses?

A. The first and best place to turn to is your health care team itself. Whenever your doctor uses a term that you don’t understand, ask what the word means. It is okay to tell your doctor, “I don’t know what that word means. Could you please explain it to me?” Asking questions will help you better understand medical terms and what they mean for your treatment.

Another valuable resource that provides simple explanations for complex medical terms and procedures is the National Cancer Institute’s Dictionary of Cancer Terms, a resource with more than 7,000 terms related to cancer and medicine. This resource is especially helpful if you are doing research in between doctors’ appointments. You can view the glossary at

Q. I know my oncologist is focused on treating my cancer, but I wish she was more compassionate towards me. What can I do?

A. Some doctors and health care teams may not have as much time as they would like to sit down and talk with you about your needs and concerns. It is also possible that some medical professionals lack training in regards to effective ways to communicate and cope with emotions. Some health care professionals are trying to change that and many medical schools now require coursework on doctor/patient communication. Many organizations, such as CancerCare, are also raising awareness of how important it is to address the full range of patients’ concerns.

This e-booklet discusses many steps you can take to improve communication with the members of your health care team. You can also speak with a social worker at CancerCare for additional tips.

Q. I have tried to improve my relationship with my oncologist, but it’s just not working. I really want to try another physician, but I’m scared to. Should I just stay with my current doctor?

A. A strong relationship with your oncologist can make a tremendous difference in how you cope with your cancer and treatment. However, she is only one member of your medical team. If you are not able to communicate directly with this person, try talking to a nurse, nurse practitioner or social worker associated with your oncologist’s practice. Someone else may be able to meet your needs.

If you have tried many of the tips in this booklet and nothing works, or you really believe changing doctors would improve how you feel about the care you are receiving, trust your instincts. You have a right to feel comfortable with your health care team and satisfied that you are getting the best care possible. Before selecting another oncologist or health care team, do your research. Ask other patients for recommendations, or contact diagnosis-specific cancer organizations for a list of recommended doctors or cancer centers. Many cancer centers and medical centers have physician referral services to help you.

Q. I’m a newly diagnosed patient. Are clinical trials an option for me?

A. Many people think that clinical trials are only for patients who have already tried many other treatments. This is not true. In most trials, patients either receive the best, current standard of treatment for their type and stage of cancer, or a treatment that shows promise of being just as good or better than the standard.

In addition to being among the first to receive a new treatment, people who take part in clinical trials are closely monitored by their doctors and other researchers and help future patients by advancing the science of cancer. Your doctor can tell you whether there are any trials that may be right for you. There are also resources available online. You can also do some research online. For more information, see the resources listed on the opposite page.

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Last updated April 12, 2016

The information presented in this publication is provided for your general information only. It is not intended as medical advice and should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultations with qualified health professionals who are aware of your specific situation. We encourage you to take information and questions back to your individual health care provider as a way of creating a dialogue and partnership about your cancer and your treatment.

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